You and your partner have been together for a long time but lately, you are not in sync.
The first couple of times you both miss the mark, you chalk it up to miscommunication and maybe even blame yourself.
You must be clearer next time.
Then it happens again and again. You purposely make sure you are VERY CLEAR!
How does this keep happening?
You want to have a discussion about it, maybe spend some time discussing how to connect better, but who has time with your busy schedules?
So, nurturing your relationship keeps going on the back burner.
Your inner voice is screaming and you pray that you will be able to find the solution before that screaming escapes from your lips.
You need is to spend time reconnecting and reacquainting yourself with your partner. You can not expect the person you knew years ago, or even last year, to be the same person today. As we age, we grow and discover more about ourselves every year. As wonderful as this is, change can cause a disconnect in a relationship.
One or more of these 15 unique experiences will encourage team work and increase communication skills to help you and your partner get back in sync.
Discover More About Each Other
#1. Check-in.
It is important to continue to learn about your partner as they learn more about themselves. Assessments can tell you how to best interact with your partner. There are many assessments out there but recently Dennis and I tried Love Nudge.
Dennis and I have known each other for 30 years, so I should really know him. The quiz results, and the discussion of the results, gave me some insight into the priorities of my husband’s needs. This debunked what I thought was important to him.
Assessments are great and fun tools you can use to check-in and open up communication.
#2. Rustle up a romantic breakfast.
Why not have breakfast in bed? You don’t need anything fancy. Dennis and I will “cook” Eggo waffles, turkey bacon, coffee, and juice. Turn off all distractions and just talk. You may end up falling back asleep again in each other’s arms.
Play Against or With Each Other
If relaxation is not for the two of you, then how about a bit of friendly competition. Here are some fun game ideas that can be played with two players or more. If you get a chance, team up and play against another couple. As a team, you can work on your communication skills and work on achieving the same goal.
#3. Play charades.
Learn to communicate with body language and good (or bad) acting! Dennis and I recently played charades and I was surprised at how great he was at this game! I sucked at it!
Try Romantic Movies Charades. Print out your deck out here. Grab your scissors and your honey and find out who is the Queen or King of charades.
#4. Play the Newlywed Game.
This is especially fun for couples that have been together for a while and are confident they know each other. Come up with questions about yourself and see how many your partner will get right.
#5. Work on a puzzle.
This is a great way to work on teamwork and patience. This does not have to be your typical 1000 piece puzzle. It can be a crossword puzzle or a wooden puzzle. There are so many options out there.
#6. Play each other in a video game.
Friendly competition can build intimacy.
Create Something Beautiful Together
#7. Express your love for each other in a fun and unique way.
Tell the story of how you met and fell in love using lyrics from love songs. Start with writing your story and then Google various love songs that have lyrics from the story you wrote. How many songs did you need to tell your story? Once you are done, read or sing the verses to your partner. You both are guaranteed to enjoy reminiscing about that special day.
#8. Show how creative you are. Participant in a virtual paint and sip.
Even if the painting doesn’t turn out as expected, encourage each other and have fun with the activity. There are several companies that do virtual paint and sip including Painting With A Twist. https://www.paintingwithatwist.com/pages/twist-at-home/
#9. Create a project with your photographs.
Do you have a lot of pictures on your phone or camera and you don’t do anything with them? Why not work together on a collage to hang on the wall.
#10. Go old school and create a “mixed tape”.
It may be hard to find a cassette and a tape player, but Spotify can do the same thing. Create your own list of slow jams for romantic evenings, or your favorite genre for your private dance party. Combine a mixture of the music you both enjoy.
Make Plans For The Future
#11. Continue to share new experiences by planning dates for the rest of the year.
However, don’t stop there. Break out your calendars and plan your vacations for this year and the next. Look for places where you can try new experiences, such as learning a new language, try new foods, or experimenting with different modes of transportation. Have you ever taken a ride in a jitney?
Do Good For Others
#12. Give love to someone else.
This will give you an idea of what causes are important to both of you. There are many people that can use some love and care. Create a care package for troops. Drop off personal hygiene kits to the homeless. Surprise a family in need with a grocery gift card.
Escape on a Romantic Rendezvous
#13. Check into a hotel.
Get away from anything (or anyone) that will keep you from connecting on a more intimate level. Reserve a room for two nights. Spend the night and wake up with breakfast in bed. Spend the day being lazy in the hotel room or go outdoors for a walk. By removing the distractions of home, you will spend more intimate time together.
#14. Bond over nature.
Get some exercise together while spending alone time together. Depending on the complexity of the hike you may assist each other over rough terrain. This is an opportunity to work on communication and trust in the relationship.
#15. Get lost on the road.
You can still socially distance and get out of the house to get some fresh air. Decide together what direction to head. Discover different neighborhoods and scenery and have a fun discussion about what you see. If you stumble across something that is interesting, write it down to visit again on one of your future dates.
You MUST prioritize your relationship or you will continue to be frustrated and may just give it all up. By sharing in these unique experiences you will see where you and your partner have grown and can begin to tweak how you communicate and interact with each other.
Better communication can lead to solving problems together, reaching common goals, and establishing an intimate relationship that is deeper than intercourse.
Kim
#10 for me please! I still have the mixed tape Dave made me in 1993! 🙂
Melody Smith
That is so romantic!!